Now more than ever before, we are seeing successful women flood our media streams, take over boss positions, and win awards previously considered insurmountable 100 years ago.
Looking at my own mother for inspiration, I find myself listing the qualities that I find stand out the most in her.
She is the strongest woman I know; a quote reiterated time and time again because our moms are just so darn awesome.
I’ve looked up to her my entire life for advice and studied the qualities that make my mother stand out as the powerful matriarch that I know her to be.
Even in times of turmoil, you can count on my mom to keep her cool, maybe even crack a joke or two to lighten the situation.
I, on the other hand, have a lot to learn.
Looking to her for advice and inspiration, I’ve compiled a list of qualities that have proven successful and will help anyone become a versatile, boss-ass bitch.
Always keep your composure.
There’s nothing more comforting or sexy than a woman who doesn’t lose her head in a stressful situation.
More importantly, it is necessary for leaders to maintain composure and face challenges with a clear mind. Always remember to personally detach yourself from problematic situations.
When things become heated, keeping your cool says a lot about your ability to lead. Motivated Mastery’s “5 Thoughts on Keeping Your Composure” implores you to become aware of your “sudden burst emotions.”
“What are burst emotions? The person who cuts you off on the road without using his or her blinker. The person who bumps into your shoulder without saying excuse me. The senseless opinion from a moron that made you visualize you punching their face in. Do you feel that inside of you? Do you hear that voice that is telling you to react — to scream, rant, complain, or whine? How many times have you acted out of burst emotions, and how many times did it prove unsuccessful? How many times did you respond to a troll on Twitter or on a blog? What did you accomplish? Think about it.”
The world isn’t as personal as you may believe it to be. You are looking for solutions that benefit everyone, not just you.
Use your network, team, family, and friends as motivation for your goals.
Don’t stray off track. Speak of your future accomplishments with confidence and work hard to get there.
Setting daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly goals motivates both you and your team. Apply this method to your everyday life; who are you now, and where do you want to be by next year?
Building your network will forever be critical for business, but what about day-to-day operations? Success isn’t limited to work alone.
Having a network of friends, family, co-workers, associates, mentors, and whoever else might be important in your life will help you move towards your goals faster than before.
Confidence really is everything.
We know confidence is important. Let’s start with answering Lifehack’s first question regarding confidence; What is it?
“In the purest sense, confidence is knowing what you’re good at, the value you provide, and acting in a way that conveys that to others.”
The way you communicate with others is carried through your body language and notion of self-worth. Speak with confidence, exude confidence, inhale and exhale confidence.
What you present unto others is what they’ll see for themselves. Use your body as a measure for confidence levels.
Pay attention to your stance when talking to others; Hand gestures, posture, expressive communication; these are key for presenting a flawless delivery every time.
Accept your mistakes and come back stronger.
“Everybody makes mistakes.” Sounds familiar, right?
Life will forever be a learning experience. Mistakes are going to be a common, recurring incident. That’s okay.
What’s not okay is not learning from these trial-and-error situations.
Author Scott Berkun’s “How to Learn From Your Mistakes” article lists three personality traits that you need in order to do so:
Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes.
Having the self-confidence to admit to them.
Being courageous about making changes.
Approaching mistakes with a mindset that readies you for arising conflict will drastically change your views on mistakes. You are not failing by messing up, you are taking another one of life’s inessential or pivotal practices and applying them to all future endeavors.
Take care of your physical appearance.
And why shouldn’t you? Maintain a healthy sleep schedule, make sure your diet is in check, drink enough water, and schedule work days off.
The way you look is the way you feel. If you’re slovenly on a daily basis (a scattered mind really reflects on physical appearance!) that will not go unnoticed.
Carry yourself proudly, and primp yourself up in a way that makes you the happiest. Find your style and roll with it, your character is carried through clothing, hair, and makeup.
Develop a customary beauty ritual once or twice a week that fits in with your schedule, and be sure to always accessorize with a smile.
You will find a plethora of guides online documenting positive-attraction. Wanderlust Worker’s “7 Ways To Attract the Right Things Into Your Life” suggests you release all of your negative energy.
“Negative energy gets in the way of attracting the things you want into your life… The more we think negatively, the more we’re able to find reasons why negative things might and will occur. And if we don’t release that negative energy, it can all but destroy our progress.”
It probably sounds like a broken record at this point, but positivity really is everything.
Calm your mind, free your stresses, live in the present, and keep your goals in mind. Positive thinking attracts positive outcomes.
Take the time to appreciate yourself for your accomplishments and the good you’ve brought into your life.
Accept that you will only continue to improve over time, and recognize both the beauty and thrilling uncertainty of that thought.
If you’re this good right now, imagine what your future will look like.